Narcissism is broadly defined as an exaggerated, yet fragile self-concept of one’s importance and influence. Most of the work on narcissism to date has explored the negative implications of the phenomenon for individual-level functioning and leadership. However, prior research also indicates that many chief executive officers who are perceived as narcissistic lead highly successful companies.
How might this be so?
Our world is progressively suffocating, now being led by undeveloped siblings, a flock oft highly pretentious corporate individuals, they are the ultimate nightmare as parents & guardians, now totally out of touch, following the unintentional conditioning away from natural psychological & environmental cognitive evolution by the insanity of endless growth & fierce corporate competition over the past 60 years as electronic technology has moved faster than the overall capacity of fellow man ability to maintain cognitive growth.Families have broken down, single & shattered families pretend to play “happy families” but the children know, kids cannot be fooled they take everything on board & learn just what they need to do to stay safe, so we conform, after all this is how we learn to speak the language of that which we are exposed, whilst absorbing all the other forms of modeled behaviour.
In like manner as a society we have been progressively led to ravenous competition, by advertising played through & feeding into the electronic media, carried into ever home & school by commercial television which thrives on leading its way up the market by indoctrinating the populous to believe in self nourishment avoidance by adorning themselves with endless quantities of “silk, gold, trinkets” magic forms of sugar & emotional numbing electronic gadgets which directly intercept the senses, poker machines, mobile phones, & Facebook & Twitter etc.
Such homage of false idolatry to these images progressive leads to cognitive & social devolution with ever increasing degrees of psychopathic insanity as a consequence of endlessly chasing the psychological sense of ravenous inadequacy, obesity & the dis-ease of attempted self nourishment through Insatiable compulsive occupation.
These people have been inflicted with the burden of never feeling they are sufficient, never perfect enough. Simply never enough.
They are incapable of playing the parent role. Their children become chess pieces in a high stakes game. They don’t give a damn about how their small child is responding to them as long as the parent is in complete control of them.
Some of these sociopaths discard and ignore their children, sending them off to full time nannies, boarding schools and military schools as early as possible.
They want nothing to do with children other than using them to build up their image of a great Father. In some cases these sociopaths choose a favored child that is groomed to become a part of his echo of perfection and power—this child becomes a strong source of narcissistic supply.
The sociopath has huge bragging rights about the high achieving child he has created.
Children who are not chosen for these special roles are thrown away, psychologically imprisoned, treated with extreme cruelty. If his children are not performing at the level he insists. Some sociopath parents abandon the entire family and re-constitute themselves with a new adoring spouse who has no clue about this form of psychopathology. See Australian Story A Complicated Life: Kerry Packer – Pt 2 where Kerry’s Father was seen to be cruel, abusive, bad tempered, yet Kerry thought he only got what he deserved as he struggled for his Fathers approval until his own death.
Dr Frank Yeomans a leading US expert on Narcissistic Personality Disorder pointed out that we commonly think narcissists are egotistical and stuck up, basically that they are nasty people. And it is true that narcissists can be entitled, arrogant, condescending, devaluing, often exploitative and sadistic.
So, according to Dr. Yeomans there’s more to narcissism than just being plain nasty.
There is a profound underlying problem that causes severe difficulties.
How do you know you’re a narcissist?
“If you feel empty and like you’re never good enough, and your social relationships turn sour periodically, and you can’t develop true intimacy.” answers Dr. Yeomans.
Similarly our tender young “Duckling Selves” floating on life’s pond where we might be all ‘Chirpy & Smiling’ up top, whilst being super busy maintaining inner sense of balance with plenty happening in the waters of our body beneath the “feathers” & our protective human safety rail of psychological armour.
Sounds like a good time to seek Counselling treatment and deal with what’s underneath.
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